Hello my friends and welcome to another episode. I'm so excited to have you here. I'm excited because I wanna talk about a new group, a new program that I am starting, and I can't wait to tell you more about the details and kind of talk about why I'm doing it and to piggyback kind of on the episode that I talked about last week, which was about my own kind of period of transition and figuring out what's next. So I'm so excited to announce that I am starting my own mastermind for the first time. I've been wanting to do this for years from really, from like the beginning of when I started my programs. I really was thinking about these small, uh, group kind of mastermind programs where you are surrounded by a community of high achieving people and you are helping each other go through whatever it is that you're going through to reach a goal that you wanna reach.

And I've thought about different iterations of what I wanna do. And as I'm going through a period myself of transition, this has just been the most aligned thing that has really sparked so much joy and, um, motivation in me to create this. And so I'm so excited to talk about my mastermind. It's called Your Next Act Mastermind, and it is for 10 high achieving women. So I limit it to 10 people, um, who are sort of done playing all the roles that they've told they should be playing. They're sort of done with this life that everybody else has told them they should want. They've checked all the boxes they've gotten, the grades, the diplomas, the titles, the accolades, um, they've, you know, been quote unquote successful. And yet here we are kind of feeling burned out and unfulfilled and really questioning like, this can't be it.
There is a calling within you for something bigger, something better, something different. And it is so easy to actually hear that call, but it is so hard to answer it because the questions come up with, well, what, what's next? And what do I do? And do I just burn it all down? Or do I start over? Or do I push through and just suck it up and be grateful? And I think for so many of us, we get, we spin in this kind of what traditionally people like to call midlife crisis or just this kind of awakening of like, who, what is this next version of me? What do I actually want in my life? What is important? And for so many of us, we don't have the space or the time to really slow down and listen to that and answer that call. And that is what I want to do with this group of amazing women that will create kind of this community and sisterhood that is helping each other move through this transition period through this life and figure out what is it that you want and how do you go after it and how do you create it?
And how do you step into that newer version of yourself when it's scary and other people don't understand? And, um, it can feel threatening and there's so much fear and grief around the loss of what you thought you wanted and that future and that identity. So I am starting a mastermind that starts September 1st. It'll be six months. And the best part, which I'm so excited about it, is that it includes a three day in-person retreat. I have done these types of retreats, and when I say they're life changing, it is not just some catchphrase. There is something about the energy of being in a room together and working on your problems with other really powerful people. And it is something, like I said, I've been wanting to do. I've been wanting to do something in person for a very long time, but it just never felt right, never felt like something I really wanted to teach on.
And this now just feels incredible. And I'm so excited to be with a group of people working towards this answer, this really big answer of who am I becoming? What is next in my identity in the next evolution of me? And helping people really step into a more powerful, more, um, aligned version of who they wanna be, uh, as they go through this next chapter of their life. So a couple things I wanna talk about though, because I just did an episode. If you listen to the last weeks about how I'm going through this period of transition, and I'm going through this period of figuring out what is next and giving myself time and space to figure out what does that next chapter look like? Does it include anything that's in this chapter or is it completely new? Do I start something, um, that I've never done before?
Do I stick with the skill sets? I know all of these questions are coming up and so I know that it might seem funny, or you might be questioning like, well, how are you gonna lead a mastermind? Or Why are you doing this when you yourself are going through this period of transition? And that's a great question and I'm glad you asked it. And one of the funny things is, I, I caught myself after I'd recorded the episode last week. I knew I was gonna record that episode and then I was gonna record this. And there was, you know, the voice of like the marketing bros, the people that you learn how to do business, quote unquote the right way, um, that tends to creep in. And the voice was saying like, are you crazy? Don't tell people that you have doubts or you don't know what you know, what you want next, or you don't know what the next chapter really looks like.
Don't you have to show certainty and you have to show confidence and you have to show that you know what you're doing and blah, blah, blah. And you have to like sell them on the fact that you are, you know, the foremost expert. And if you've been around me, you know that that is just not my shtick at all. That is not the way that I show up. That is not my life, that is not my business, and I will never mark it like that. And one of the things I really pride myself on is just being as honest as I possibly can. As you know, I know it's a buzzword, quote unquote authentic as I as I possibly can. So I will never lie about where I am at what I'm feeling. I will never lie about the messiness of the human experience or my own experience.
I will never put on a front that I have it all figured out and that I have some master plan. And I think if you find any coach that is doing that, I would question it. I'm not saying that there aren't experts in certain fields, of course there are. But I find that the persona of somebody that has all the answers, that has the perfect life, that has everything figured out is always a facade because that's just not any human experience ever. And I'm no different. And so if you are looking for that guru, I can promise you I'm not it. Um, I'm not your coach, the type of coach for you because I will never show up in that way to try to, you know, if you get a false sense of security from that, that like I have all the answers and I'm gonna be able to, um, I don't know, parlay that into you.
That is not the way that I coach, and I don't think that is the most helpful because I am not the one with the answers. You are. I can't have the answers for your life. You do. But I do have the questions. And I think that is why I'm so drawn to doing this because this isn't my first rodeo. This is not my first evolution of myself. This is not my first identity death. Uh, the first big one, major one that I had was when I quit my job as a lawyer. And that was an extremely painful transition for me. It was ex that was, you know, the best, um, description of identity death. It felt like a death. And there was years of struggling that I did struggl with that transition because I was filled with so much shame and so much grief and so much guilt.
And I really sat with in a lot of unnecessary pain, so much regret and taking on other people's opinions and thinking I was doing something wrong. And I was really stumbling my way through. I know this is not right, and I, and I'm so proud of myself for even allowing that voice to come through and lead me. And yet it felt as though it's like you're walking through the mud, you know, carrying, uh, these 10 pound bags in each arm. Like I'm just trudging through this muck. And every step felt so hard and it took so long. And it really took me years to kind of go through that full transition of who I had been as you know, this type a a plus student lawyer, successful in the eyes of society, but deeply unhappy to who I was becoming. And I think because I was trying to outrun a lot of that shame and that grief because I couldn't face myself, I jumped into a lot of things that weren't, still, weren't aligned for me, but just because I needed to find something quickly and I wanted to prove that I was still good enough and I wanted to prove that I was still a success.
And I wanted people to see that like, I'm not worthless and I am still a good person or whatever BS my brain was kind of feeding me. I kept jumping into business after business that I didn't even care about or I didn't want to do, but I just needed something, something to be able to like be like, see, look, I, I'm still worthy, I'm still productive. Um, and it wasn't through many more iterations of this kind of evolution of myself when I did find coaching and I did find mindset work where I released a lot of the shame and I released a lot of the grief. And I, you know, well, I processed a lot of the grief and I released a lot of my attachments to e my identities and, um, I allowed myself to play and to explore and to create a business that I actually loved.
And so I say this because like as I'm going through this, like each transition for me has become so much easier, so much lighter, so much funner, right? When I have let go, the need of, um, of beating myself up, of being what everybody else wants me to be. And so while yes, I am also going through a transition, I'm not going through the same transition that likely you are if you're going through this for the first time. Um, I, I sort of liken it to, um, you know, like a, if you have a personal trainer and you're new to a health journey, your trainer might be training for their first, uh, bodybuilding competition, let's say. And so they are also kind of learning a new nutritional plan and they're learning a new workout regimen to, you know, get shredded or whatever. Just because they are learning, that does not mean that they all haven't sort of mastered where you are at.
They haven't, they don't have the tools to help you where you're starting on your nutrition journey or on your exercise journey, right? It's sort of the same thing. I also think of it like, um, my coach, um, the person I that I, that I studied under, she used to, she, she has like an analogy for when you are going for any goal or when you're, when you're doing anything new, is like you're pushing off on this island that you are comfortable on that you know, and you're trying to get to this other island that is your new goal, that, you know, in this case is your new identity is the thing that you want. And in between you have to go through the river of misery as she calls it, right? It's like that is the hard part is that, and there's no other way, but through, right?
Is like, that is where a lot of the fear and the doubt and the stress and the frustration and the negative emotions and all of that comes before you can get to this place where you have this either new goal or new identity or habit or whatever it is for you, right? So I am in the river of misery right along with you. The difference is, is like I'm floating on a life boat, right? I'm just like sort of allowing this river to take me. I'm rowing. Whereas a lot of people I see that come to me that are in these places of transition, are drowning, are just kind of panic, splashing in the water. And my goal with this mastermind is to just give you a hand into the lifeboat is to help you come in to say like, Hey, we can ask these big questions.
We can sit with this unknown. We can sit with the uncertainty, we can invite it in, we can, um, get really fun and creative with it. We don't need all this suffering. We don't need to, you know, make it harder than it is. We don't need to add more to our own paint. And so that is why I, I feel even more equipped to do this work right now. 'cause I find myself sitting and answering these questions and I find myself doing these exercises and um, really opening my mind to ways I'm so in it that it is really understandable. Like I think sometimes like when I think back when I'm, when I talk to people that were like where I was as a lawyer, I'm so far removed at this point that sometimes it becomes harder. Like I know what you went through, but I haven't been in that for about 10 years now, right?
Whereas with this, I feel like I am in it, I get it. I have the same exact thoughts, the same exact fears. Um, my brain is freaking out just as much as anybody else is. And so because I can watch it, because I can see it and I know how to sort of calm myself down and calm my own nervous system down, I have the tools to help you do the same thing. And, and so part of the, one of the reasons why I wanted to lean into this is because I wanted to be in a community as I go through this with other people that are going through this that understand the feelings of this when other people may be around you don't. And I think one of the other main reasons why this is exactly the time I wanted to do this is because I know how important it is to have a community in these moments of deep transformation in these big transitions.
Um, I know how hard it is when the day-to-day people do not understand what you're going through when people look at you and think like you should just be grateful you have everything you wanted. You got the thing that you were going through, whether that's you got the job, whether you, like, I see so many people that are retiring or retiring early and it sounds like such a great thing. Or they're taking a sabbatical and it sounds so wonderful, but they don't know inside that you're like gripped with fear and that you are paralyzed and you can't enjoy it because you don't know what you know you wanna do next. And you don't know what this means about you and you don't know what identity you're really embodying. And so I know how helpful it is to watch and be with other people in that time.
And I know for me, as I talk about this transition, I know for me that whatever I do in my next iteration will absolutely involve building community. One of the biggest things that I have become clear on and I think that has sort of, um, pushed me in this, into this time of transition and transformation is that while I love coaching and I believe that there's so much more accountability we get to take for our own lives and there's so much change that we get to create in our own lives, I have seen the power that community creates in people's lives. Um, I've seen it from the communities that I've grown up in, in a culture that is much more community based than I, than the west tends to be. I've also seen it just within coaching, which is why I tend not to do one-on-one coaching.
I tend to do group coaching 'cause I can see the power in having, seeing other people's lives and having their support and not walking through these things alone. And I think when you're going through something as big as these transitions are and you are dealing with, like I say, really heavy things like grief and shame and these big dreams that scare you and fear, the worst thing that you can do is do it alone because your brain will convince you that it's too much, that it's too hard, that you can't do it and you will give up. Whereas simply just being in a community with other people that are doing the same thing shows you what's possible, shows you how much is possible. And so I know that as I go through this, I don't know exactly if my next thing is gonna be this and I, you know, grow this group and maybe that maybe I do it and I fall so in love with it that it becomes like a calling and maybe I don't, maybe I do it once and I realize like it was fantastic, it was a great experience, but it has helped me kind of uncover what I actually want.
Whatever it is. I know that for me community is just a huge part of what is next. And so I'm leaning into that with this. I want to start with this group and build a very intentional group of 10 incredible women, um, to go through this with and to learn with and to uh, explore with. And so that is what I'm gonna do for the next six months. And I would love to invite you to join me if that, if any of what I've talked about really like sounds like where you're at, if it resonates, you can go to quitter club.com/mastermind and get all the information there. I will tell you it is six months. It is both group coaching and every month you get a one-on-one kind of deep dive with me. It is a three day retreat in beautiful, sunny California, Southern California, um, and a bunch of other stuff Voxer support.

It is the most, um, high touch program I've done. It is the most I will be involved with people because I am set on reducing the amount of time that you struggle through this phase. Um, taking it from years and years to a couple of months to help you get the clarity that's there that I know is there to help you understand how much power you have to help you reinvent that identity so you can let go of all of the crap that you don't want anymore and not carry it around with you year after year so you can step into who it is you want to be, because I promise you the world needs that. There's so much power in that. There's so much beauty in that. Um, and so many of us are benefited by people stepping into that. And so I want to help you do that. If that sounds like something you want, join me. Uh, like I said, there are only 10 spots and it does start in September, so I dunno when you're listening to this, but make sure you go to quitter club.com/mastermind and join us there. And I will be back next week for another episode that will likely be just focused on mindset stuff. But I wanted to kind of take these last two episodes to talk about transitions and transformations and this new opportunity and I hope you will join me. I'll talk to you guys soon. Bye.