Hello my friends and welcome to another episode. I'm so excited you
are here. I am starting something a little bit different , over the next six weeks.
So if you've just tuned in, this isn't typically what I do on the podcast, but I
figured this might be
the best way that I can help. So I have been doing a series
on burnout over the last two weeks, and I have been talking more about kind of
what causes burnout and my own experiences.
With trying to find more joy and more space and how all of our thoughts g
et in
the way. I know pretty much everybody at this point suffers from some aspect
of burnout, and I was thinking about how to continue this series. I recently did a
six week course in my quitter club, my membership, it is my paid membership
that I no long
er am admitting new students into.
And this course really was my dwindling down everything that I thought is
important for burnout into six. Kind of steps, six pillars that I think you really
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need to understand if you are going to help yourself
get out of that
state. And so I was thinking about what to do next for the podcast and I figured
why not just share that?
Curriculum that course. Why not put it on the podcast to help more people? And
so that's what I'm gonna do over the next six weeks, is
I'm gonna share each
week the class that I did in the Quitter Club. And so it's not the typical audio or
the typical, thing that you hear from me. I will come back to do regular podcasts
after this, but I figured that this might be the best way that I can
help you
because it provides really actionable , tips and tricks and worksheets and things
that you can work on in order to get out of the constant grind that we're all in.
I will say this, please excuse the quality of the audio. During this time, which
w
as unfortunate for me, I didn't realize that I had a broken microphone. And so
it isn't the same quality as a lot of the podcasts are, or as actually most of my,
classes in the Quitter Club are. But. I kind of went back and forth of like, do I
wanna share
it?
'cause it doesn't sound the best, but I figured that the content
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is worth
it. And so you're gonna have to bear with me that it's not the best audio quality,
but it's good enough. And that's what we are here to do. Actually, one of the
pillar
s is B minus work, like doing things that aren't perfect and I figured.
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What a better way than starting it off by showing you that we can put out work
that's not perfect and still help people. So we're gonna start with that series over
the next six weeks.
The first week is an audit and I really hope that you don't
just listen, but you actually do it. I know a lot of you might be listening on a
drive, I get that.
But come back to this and actually do. The exercises because they are very eye
-
opening. It is ve
ry, a very stark reality that a lot of us haven't faced. So I hope
you enjoyed this series. If you do, let me know. I have been thinking about,
doing more things like this. Do I take out other master classes that I've had and
put on the podcast if it's too
much and you're like, no, I just want you to talk to.
The way you used to on the podcast, let me know that too. I'm definitely open to
suggestions of how to take the podcast in different directions, but for now, I
figured that this would be helpful. And
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so we're gonna do this six
week burnout Breakthrough Accelerator course on the podcast. And we're
gonna start with week one.
So I hope you enjoy.
Hello, my friends. Welcome to our first class of the Burnout Breakthrough
Accelerator. I'm so exc
ited for this series. What it's gonna be, what I kind of
thought of when I was coming up with this is I had sat down to think about like,
what would it. Every person that I wanted to like get through a breakout as
quickly as possible.
What are the key thin
gs that they had to focus on in order to be able to get
themselves out without, overhauling everything? Without like, quitting their job
or like depend regardless of where they're at in their life, regardless of what job
they have. Like what are the key pi
llars that they need to kind of, work on, or
not like, have to be perfect, but just make a dent in,
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in order to start
seeing some real change. And I'd come up with these six steps that I really think
shouldn't take all that much time. But they'r
e not easy. Some of 'em, they're
gonna require practice. We're not gonna be perfect at it.
We're gonna try things. If you do these things, you will see a difference in the
way that you approach your life, in the way that you feel in your life. And I
know t
hat every one of us. Is burned out. I'm burned out and I'm, I teach this
stuff and I constantly these things. And I think that living in old where we're
inundated with information and bad news and we are constantly told to hustle
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and our worth is tied into
how much we do and we are trying to be everything
for everyone. It is impossible not to drive into the ground. And so the principles,
and the kind of the exercises I'm gonna teach you are gonna help us take a little
bit of that back to like stop giving so
much of ourselves willingly to a system
that's trying to kill us, right?
Is
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to kind of. Put up a fight and say like, no, I'm not doing that
anymore. And so the, the lessons that I've prepared, I are meant to be short. I'm
hoping that every week
this will be a 15 to 30 minute rant and exercise thing.
Um, and it will only really take you 15 minutes to do whatever exercise I give
you.
, Obviously a lot of 'em, it's gonna be repetitive every day. You're gonna have to
like practice the thing, but I r
eally want, don't wanna add another to
-
do. I'm so
excited to have so many of you here today. If you can't make future ones, no
worries. You can listen to it on replay. In the private podcast or on Kajabi, uh, I
highly suggest, you listen to all because the
y all, um, are important parts and
they, a lot of them build off of each other.
And so, we're gonna just get to like one part today as kind of I've mentioned and
then we'll continue going. Okay. One of the things that we're gonna work on,
uh, as we work on
things every week they're gonna fall through categories,
right? Because what I've realized with burnout is that it's an and situation.
It's, it's two different things.
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It tends to be that we all are doing too
much. Like a lot of our actions are
too much. We are all trying to be everything
to Eddie at work and at home and in our health. And in fun and all of this stuff.
And some of it is truly just.
Stopping that, like you have to actually stop doing all the things and accept that
you can't do al
l the things and forgive yourself for not being able to do all the
things and deal with the guilt of not doing. All of the things that's gonna be one.
The other part is mindset, you know, and I like shocker, but like, part of it is it
doesn't matter how mu
ch we're doing if we're constantly telling ourselves we're
not doing enough, or if we're constantly saying we're not doing it good enough,
or we're constantly beating ourselves up for what we are doing that is also
burning us out.
Right? It's not, this is
why so many of us might feel utterly exhausted, even if
we haven't done that much all day. Because we're running in our mind all day
long. So it's like, even if I'm, it's a Saturday and I've kind of lounged around, but
I'm still just so exhausted 'cause
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0:07:00]
I've gone through my mental to
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dos
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of everything. I have to do, everything that's gonna happen, you know, over the
weekend and what I should have cleaned up and what I didn't get to and how
terrible I am and all of this other stuff. So, these clas
ses over the next six weeks
are gonna be a mix of both, like actionable, what are we gonna actually stop
physically doing, and then mentally what are we gonna like, clean up and try to
create a little bit more peace and calm in our lives.
Okay. So for toda
y's, for the first week, it is going to be, I don't know, relatively
easy. I don't know if, I guess it depends on. For each of you. It's good. For some
of you, this'll be easy. For some of you, this will actually be really difficult, but
it shouldn't take
that long. And we're gonna start with what I call the purge.
We're gonna call this, we're gonna go through a self
-
assessment and we're
gonna, start. Knocking off, things that we are longer going to hold over our own
head. Okay. So we're gonna start with ki
nd of the action stuff. Like we are,
we're going to
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take a self
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assessment and intake of everything we are
doing and we are going to get rid of a lot of it.
We're gonna purge a lot of it.
We're gonna go through it right now together. Okay. Um, a
nd here's the thing.
I'm gonna go a little bit faster than I would if I was doing it at doing actual
assignment, so you can get started on this as I'm talking through it. But I want
you to, after the call, go back and. Continue to add to it, finish it, kee
p coming
back. Even if you're doing it at home, you might do it in one sitting and then
you're gonna go onto your life and then you're gonna be like, oh, I forgot.
I also think I should do this and this. Okay. Go back and keep adding. Because
part of this
exercise is going to be just to be able to see it in black and white. It
is so powerful to just see in black and white. So you wanna make sure you write
everything down. Okay? So what you're gonna do, super simple.
As you're gonna take a piece of paper and
we're gonna start with different areas
in our lives, and we are gonna write down everything that we think we should
be doing in that area. Okay.
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Not that you have to do, not that it's a
part of your requirement, but that you think you should do
.
Okay. I don't care if you're not doing it and I especially want you to include the
things that you're not actually doing, but you think you should be doing. Okay.
So anything that your brain is like, oh, we really should, you know, we should
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have organiz
ed the office birthday parties this month. Some people didn't get a
birthday party.
Any silly thing that on your mind about that you should do. Okay. so I want you
to write out everything you think you should do for work. Now, this is gonna
obviously include the tasks that you are hired to do. Okay? So all of the weekly,
monthly, whatever
tasks the stuff that you are, that people expect you to do.
But more than that, I want it to include all of the things that you are not paid to
do, but you think you still should do. Right. Um, whether that's, I should reach
out to my colleagues more, I s
hould go to, let lunch more and be more sociable.
I should, um, take on initiative and finish this report that my boss wanted. I
should lead meetings. I should volunteer for the DEI committee. And you
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can even do, like, I should get there 15 min
utes before my time
starts.
I should stay late so people see me in my office. I should stay until seven. I
shouldn't take a lunch break like I should always be at my desk. Whatever rules
you have for yourself for work, just spend, like, we're gonna, I'm go
nna give
you guys a couple minutes. What are all of the things that you should do for
work? .
like I said, I'm gonna kind of move on more quickly 'cause I don't wanna take
up too much time today. And then I want you to be able to put it on your own,
um, wh
en you have as much time as you need so you can continue writing. But.
Okay. Yeah. Arlet says just the list of categories that I have in the PDF is
exhausting.
It really is. Um, and I want you to see like, it's just so jarring to see. Okay. But
we're gonna
move on. So after you do work, I want you to do all the things that
you should do at home. Okay. And that's gonna, I've kind of like lumped this all
in. You could do it separately. You could do your list however you want, but
that's gonna include all of t
he things you should do
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for your family.
So that could be a spouse, partner, boyfriend, girlfriend. That could be for your
roommates. That could be for kids, right? So everything you should do for your
kids, which if you have kids, is a really l
ong laundry list all in of itself. Okay?
So all the things you should do for your kids, and then all the things you should
do for the home.
So I should clean the kitchen once a week. I should clean the bathrooms once a
week. Whatever, you're on, whatever s
chedule on, all of, the, upkeep of the
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house. And even if like, I should decorate more, I should make it prettier. I
should make it more like inviting.
I should I use the air freshener so it smells better. We all have very strange like
requirements of ours
elves. So whatever you think you should do, put it on the
list.
Okay, that one's likely gonna take you. Till tomorrow. So I'm gonna keep
moving on and then you're gonna come back and refill it. And the next category
is gonna be what should all the things w
hat are all the things you're doing for
your own physical and mental health?
And then after you go through that, I
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want you to go to the next
category. And I want you to write down what are all the things that you should
do to maintain your friendships or like what you should do for your friendships,
extended family. So, you know, in the first part at home we talked a
bout like
your partner and your kids and all this stuff you should do for them.
But like, what should you be doing for your elderly parents or for your, cousins
and aunts and uncles and like, should you be hosting Thanksgiving and inviting
people over once
a month and calling that aunt who's, alone, and other. Random
things that you should be doing.
Now this. I, I have it as like, what you, what are all the things you should be
doing for your spirituality or your religion If you are a religious person or if
you're a spiritual person and you have like, you know, meditating every day, or
I should be doing a gratitude journal. Another thing you can add to this, if
you're not, I mean, you could do this and also another thing is there, I, I wanna
create like a ca
tchall.
It's like, you know, maybe it's not spirituality or religion, but
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is, is it
like. Personal . Development to make myself better. Like I should be doing my
thought work every week. I should be doing, I was actually, just as I'm saying
this
, I'm like, oh, I should have had a category that says like, what are all the
things you should be doing with your money?
Right? Like, I should go to a financial advisor. I should have my trust set up. I
should like, what are, like the whole point of this
is to understand how much
you're holding in your head. The ments that you have for yourself that are
absurd, right? So you just wanna get down. So if I'm saying something and it
triggers another category for you, just make another list of all the things th
at
you think you should be doing in that are